Friday Nights

Friday night's pushing through the Tijuana border hauling ass through all summer visiting traffic, street vendors, flashing policía lights, and pinches calafias (public transportation buses) to get HOME! And I can't wait. Mon-Fri San Diego traffic, border crossing, school and work is worth every bit of it! I no longer wake up everyday yearning to be back in the states. Now I can't wait to get HOME to TJ. To my family, friends, home to MY LIFE. Our world still turns just in a different direction.

On a typical TJ Friday night I get home and my 8 yr old is happy, laughing running back and forth with his friends playing soccer and xbox. My 14 yr old is walking around taking retarded but beautiful pictures of herself for her instagram fame and my husband is outside on the patio awaiting my arrival. We sit outside with my cold Tecate and shoot the shit talking about a whole bunch of nothing and then take off to the taco stand.  more often than not friends will stop by and we will just hangout and I love it! By now I'm relaxed and my thoughts of my crazy busy life throughout the week has mysteriously vanished. Now that's what I call happiness.

Saturday's are spent at the beach, water park, bbq, park or just chillin' watching Netflix. I might even end up at th tattoo shop geting some work done too! ;)

This is the life that lileezworld has made and come to love so much!

Dear 2011

What didnt happen to us in 2010 happened in 2011 which has made us more ready for 2012 then ever! Its gonna be a wonderful year=)

 

Dear 2011

"Geez ol' Pete" you really put one down for us...  You gave us what was needed to get buy and that we are thankful for! you really tried kicking my ass a couple time with the bad news and that  I could of done with out but you have made us stronger and more ready then ever for our new friend 2012!  Between Mom and Dad divorcing, finding out that Dad is very ill, car was stolen, lil sister going through some terrible times, teenagers ripping my heart out and last but not least fighting international border lines I can still truly tell you I am thankful for the following:

 

The wonderful people that came into our lives and have made them to be life long. 

My wonderful job.

Husbands wonderful job and sanity.

IM2US, F/B FAMILY that has helped us get through some very tough times.

Discovering new and great relationships within my extended family.

Success of my children in school.

Family visits.

Great holiday celebrations.

 I am actually able to say that the deportation of my husband is no longer a heavy burden on me and we are able to move on with our lives.  And we are now strong enough to continue helping those that are sadly going to go through what we did.  I am sure that I will have 'bad days' and those will be taken in stride as they come but they are fewer and far between and 2012 is going to be OUR YEAR of success and happiness =)

MY REALITY

My reality is full of long lines, long days, lots of traffic busy cities, lots of steep hills and for all of these things I have become a better person.  Long lines has taught me to be more creative with my time and have more patience with people.  Long days has taught me to be more greatful when I walk through my doors and to be home and I wish I could say the steep hills has got me into the best shape of my life but I guess that is yet to come.....  and how is this different then those of you that live in the big city with lot of traffic and long hours at work???? mmmm 

I  was asked one day by a fellow co worker if I was tired of living in TJ!?!?  She knows we live there but she does not know why. For a moment I was really irritated, she had such disgust/lack of understanding in her voice and for a second I had to bite my tongue and smile.  For anyone that knows me, biting my tongue is still a hard concept for me!  But for once I sincerely felt comfortable enough with myself and my life choices that I did not feel the need to explain myself or our situation. IT FELT GREAT!!!! It was a moment of realization and so liberating to know that things are OK and this is MY LIFE and this is My Reality and things are OK. 

Hi Hoe Hi Hoe its off to work he goes!!

My hunny got a JOB!

We are so excited and thankful.  Now along with all of that said, deep down inside there is a little bit of I guess we will call it.... NERVIOS.

Mommy and kiddos will no longer have "Daddy daycare."oooh my what to do???? Looks like imma have some kids for sale!?!?! j/k No really though, he has done such an amazing job staying home and actin' as  domestic engineer of the yr!  Better then I could of ever done. I had no problem with him stayin' home with the kiddos but I really think is was weighing really heavy on him not being able to contribute.

Work in Mexico hmmm, about $15.00 a day if your lucky, drug test, written test, background check, copies of everysingle piece of information under the friggin' sun, more tests, 6 day work weeks with no weekends off oh yeah did I mention $15.00 a day.

In the States it was all about how much and here it is just about havin' one.. get it!?!?!

So movin' forward our days are as follows':

5 a.m. Mom leaves for work
1 p.m. Kids go to school
1:30 p.m. Papi leaves for work
5 p.m. Mom gets off work
5 p.m. Kids get out of school and walk home
6 p.m. Mom gets home and does well hmmm Mom stuff *yuck* cook, clean, homework, etc.
10 p.m. husband catches taxi to the entrance to our neighborhood and mom goes and picks him up.

Needless to say we dont see eachother alot but its for a good cause and the time spent will be spent VERY WELL! *WINK *WINK

A Little Bit About Me

A Little Bit About Me

This one was started by Lisa from From One Country to Another and is great way to learn a bit more about each other.

1. How long have you been with your husband?
We met in 1992 he was my first b/f and first for a lot of other things.. teeheehee.
He broke my young lil teenage heart and we separated for 7yrs. Then one day in 1998 he showed up @ my aunts house lookin' for me and we have been together every since <3

2. Can you remember one funny miscommunication because of language barriers?

Since my husband had been in the states since he was 6 his English it pretty good... But he has problems with the letter V and using it in place of B.  The letter B is almost non existent when he speak english:

Example:

*Bitamins
*Ban
*Bacation
*Banessa
*Begetables


I LOVE IT<3<3


3. What state / and or city have you relocated to?
Baja California, Tijuana, Mexico

4. Do you and your hubby have any children, How old?

oooh yess we have the Brady Bunch thing goin' on...
6 yr boy old (together) lives with us
12 yr old (together) lives with us
15 yr old girl (his) lives with us
16 yr old boy (hers) lives with dad

16 yr old boy (his) lives with us
19 yr old girl (his) lives with mom

"teenagers will be the death of me!"


5. What is one things thing that your blogger friends don't know about you?
I love tattoos.. I have many and want many more... My husband is not to keen on it but that is my thing.. My lower left calf is dedicated to my kiddos and husband.

6. What are some of your favorite hobbies or past times?

Anything that has to do with Family and Music I am there,  I love to barbeque and crack jokes all night. Yes my family "gots jokes".... gotta have thick skin to hang out with us!

7. How did you stumble upon the blogging community?

My sister told me about starting a blog.. She said that it would help me get everything "off my chest" and @ my own discretion...

8. Have you learned something new about yourself during this whole process that has changed all of our lives?

I have learned that there is a lot bigger world out there then I ever knew...I have proved to myself that I am a lot stronger then I ever knew. And it is now a proven fact that "where there is a will there is a way!" 

9. Something that you love about Mexico and something that you cant stand or miss living without.

I love being able to come home Friday after work and know that I am goin' to have2 DAYS OFF! Havent figured it out yet but for some reason here there doesn't seem to be so much hustle n bustle as in the states.  We actually have time to hang out and do things around the house....

I dislike not having a bath tub and central air....


10. Did you know your in-laws before moving and has it been a big adjustment being closer to them

Yes I knew them and I will talk about it on another blog at another time! Sometimes some situations are better left unsaid.....

11. If you were going back to the states next week where is the first place you would go, of course after seeing your family?
Only if my husband was with me would I ever go back... and the first thing I would want to do is go and take our youngest child to Disneyland!

25 Things I Love About my "Sanwich de Jamon" (ham sandwich)

This post is based on the below comment "anonymous" cause they do not deserve anymore recogninition then that:
“7:28 PM
Jul 3, 2011
To all the women who marry illegals, or choose to marry down. Too bad if you don’t like what is said about the subject. This format is one of the few places Americans can voice their opinion without fear of job loss or government retaliation. What did you down dating fools think? That everyone would be supportive? Not ! Women love to date losers, can I ask you women the size of your husbands bank accounts? Could it be 4 figures at best, or perhaps zero! It’s not so much that these men have immigration problems that disturb me. It’s the whole package, I’m sure they have zero bank accounts, zero job opportunity, and wives and children in their home countries. A woman will fall in love with a ham sandwich.”


What I love about my Ham Sandwich,

1. He loves me like no other
2. We have no money in the bank and he is still cute at the end of the day!
3. He gave me beautiful children.
4. He is the BEST lover in every way!
5. Patience is his vertue.
6. He can remind me to calm down in any situation.
7. His jokes are never ending...
8. He lets me feel like im the boss as needed.
9. Loves me the same with or without makeup.
10. Takes wonderful care of our children
11. Family is everything to him.
12. Loves me endless even with PMS!
13. God Fearing.
14. Loves my Mom like his own.
15. Let me know, "everything will be alright"
16. Writes beautiful letters
17. Thoughtful
18. Has the biggest <3 ever!
19. Learns to like what I like.
20. Will try jus' about anything once.
21. Tells me the truth when my food doesnt taste good.
22. Doesnt mind cleanin' up the dog crap cuz that is somethin' I will not do!
23. Tells me I not fat when I know i have gained more weight then needed.
24. Speaks spanish so beautifully.
25. And last but not least, he loves Ham Sandwiches!


There you go now everyone knows why I love my "viejo" 25 times over.  So I guess I can concur with the above comment from "anonymous" I will and have fallen in love with my "ham sandwich"

Sunday Afternoons

Sunday afternoons are my favorite days here in TJ.  It is a time of pure relaxation.... It seems all the years I lived in the states the weekends always consisted of runnin' around tryin' to catch up with all the stuff I didnt have time to do during the week. And even though we are right @ the border of the states it is sooo different here.  Especially Sundays, It seems like its a state of mind that is never talked about. If that makes sense?? The whole city just seems to stop and everyone enjoys the day and family.  No worries, no runnin' around in a frenzy, no hustle and bustle... Even the city streets are less traveled.  We jus' get up and slowly but surely decide what we can do together! We actually enjoy the whole day to the fullest and dont feel guilty about what did not get done! It really makes the weekend worth the 5 day wait.. 

Another reason why I still feel that in some twisted way being forced to come here was our destiny. It has forced me in sooo many ways to enjoy our time and family and not have to compete with what everyone else is doing....